Virginia Bianco-Mathis
University professor, author

Virginia Bianco-Mathis

Business department chair of management programs at Marymount University and author of two books on executive coaching.


Redefine yourself

Q: As we approach Thanksgiving and the holiday season, we often look back at the people and experiences that helped us get where we are. Who (and what) were your "game-changers," and how did they change the way you look at your life and career?

The game-changers in my life forced me to redefine myself at three different crossroads.

The first person was an old boyfriend. After I taught high school for several years and became increasingly frustrated with the faults of the public school system, my friend said, "Why not transfer your teaching ability to the corporate sector and enter the world of business training?"

I read past issues of the Training and Development Journal, got a job at C&P Telephone as a corporate trainer, and never looked back.

The second game-changer was a mentor I had at AT&T. As we waited for the elevators, she said, "It's time you start talking like a leader. No more talking like an employee. Mentally think of yourself as a leader with opinions, vision, and insights." With that, I stepped into a higher level of thinking and interacting, which is probably why I became a vice president at the ripe old age of 38.

My latest game-changer was my husband. After two children and one more on the way, he said to me, "I want you to work less and make more money."

After having a good laugh, I somehow did exactly that. I started my own company, became a college professor, and gained a flexibility I had never experienced before.

Game-changers point out the possibilities that we don't see within ourselves.

By Virginia Bianco-Mathis  |  November 29, 2010; 12:00 AM ET  | Category:  Mentors Save & Share:  Send E-mail   Facebook   Twitter   Digg   Yahoo Buzz   StumbleUpon   Technorati  
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